Rather than taking an argumentative stance that only serves to reaffirm what they already think, Pham and Walker offer productive conversations intended to push us all toward more generous and powerful modes of looking at the world, served up with wit, intelligence, and love. So nice to be having a coffee with you on this beautiful spring day.
The birds are chirping, the crocuses are peepin out—. Also, crocuses are flowers. Not bugs. Like many of us thought! This means that the most vulnerable sex workers, people with fewer material resources to begin with, have been hit the hardest by these shutdowns. It also seems crucial right now to highlight that sex work is work , and that the problems around it are inherent to problems surrounding labor in general.
Rather than making it more dangerous for people to survive, we should be focusing on how to improve working conditions for all laborers — and right now, that means centering the needs and experiences of sex workers. HRT update month a Drake song made me cry. Anyway, I spent a good chunk of Saturday wandering around New York by myself after finishing my shift at the store I work at in the city. I walked around Central Park, read Nameless Woman on a bench by some ducks, and popped into a fancy older Midtown bar once I got cold.
I just…recognized these impulses as they popped into my head and then acted on them. This probably sounds pretty basic for most people, but flexing my frontal lobe is still kind of new to me. Transitioning, if I remove all the gendered specifics of it, has meant recognizing what I want my life to look like and how I want to live it, and my guiding principles since deciding to transition a little over a year ago have been What do you want? Does this bother you?
I try to ask myself those same questions on smaller scales every day. I can leave! Think white hipster girl in the mid-to-late aughts with two-foot bangs and foot hair.
